When you ask someone where they are truly at peace or some place where a person can go to collect themselves, you often get a variety of answers. Some people have that “special place” like a cottage or shore by the ocean that allows them to “get their head screwed on straight” realaxt heir thoughts or work through a problem by doing some serious thinking. Sadly, some people do not have such a place and feel trapped at times when the need is there to get away from it all.
It’s important to many to have an oasis, a sanctuary, an escape, or even a room in the house(or apartment) that they can call their own. Once there, it really doesn’t matter if you practice fancy mindfulness, meditation or Just Be. Simply being there on your own, feeling safe and calm , is sometimes enough. But if your place involves banging through the waves in a speed boat with the wind blowing through your hair – well that’s fine too. It’s your place.
The thing that is important is to be able to find that tranquility or space when you need it.
I’d be interested in other people’s experiences and what Your special place is.
Even though the list can be endless, I think that the following 5 components of tacking your stress are essential for any plan!
1 . ENJOY the activities that you are using to deal with your stress.
The American Heart Association has outlined the importance of actually incorporating enjoyable and pleasurable activities into your stress management plan. Doing things that you simply don’t enjoy does not work
2. Include Physical Exercise in you Stress and Anxiety Management.
3. Deal with Stress at Work.
4. Learn Assertiveness and Self Respect
5. Avoid the overuse of substances or artificial way to Reduce Stress .
Using substances like alcohol, drugs or ingestion of food and drinks such as cola or coffee can become an ineffective way – as well as problematic- to deal with stress. Simply put – It’s important to watch this aspect of your life and not make your “go to’s” a problem area for you. A relaxing coffee, tea, meal or other things like this can be a great part of your day. The National Library of Medicine has an interesting article on stress and vulnerability to addiction that is linked here.
Please add your comments and tips . This is just part of a plan for stress and anxiety management that can be effective.
Mindfulness, first made really popular by John Kabot-Zinn (sp) the author of “Full Catastrophe Living”, wanted people to be able to be present in their own experience of stress, joy, excitement and just simply the human experience. We now have a wide variety of “Mindful” approaches to stress anxiety and life management. Ultimately it’s the experience of living a moment in the fullest and hopefully feeling positive, aware and good.
We can all be our own experts on developing an approach that is unique and effective for each of us. The other day I was caught in a moment where I watched some spring chickadees at my bird feeder as I pulled into my driveway. A few minutes passed as I watched them fly to and from the protection of a nearby bush. I really didn’t think about it as mindfulness at the time but I was not thinking about anything else for those few minutes except the two small creatures and the beauty of the scene (cue the music). Anyway, that a mindful experience.
I’d be interested to hear about the experiences of others.
In Canada, this is the first holiday weekend to kick off the spring/summer season. At the supermarket today, I saw people stocking up on groceries, barbecue supplies and beer for a weekend of kicking back and some serious R and R. …… Hopefully. As I observed the campers on their way out of town and the people in some hurry to officially start the weekend, I wondered if their formula for this weekend really added up to self care, relaxation , rejuvenation and simply spending quality time to achieve a weekend that would resulted in some peace of mind and happiness. It might be “overthinking it” but it’s worth taking the time to think about these events as a means of achieving what we really want for ourselves instead of going through the motions of a few days — only to land at Tuesday morning without having gotten a break for ourselves.
Everyone has a different definition of their needs foe a holiday weekend. The important thing is to have some idea of what it means to you. What do you do on these holidays to unwind?